I remember a patient who came into this ward several years ago. A young man who we didn't think would make the night. His visitor was young woman who couldn't stop crying.
In soft words I heard her say 'I wish we hadn't waited.' I wasn't sure I heard and asked her to repeat. 'I wish we hadn't waited.' I noticed on her hand a wedding ring that matched the patient. She told me how they had delayed their honeymoon while trying to get the money together.
She told me; "We always knew we would get married and spend the rest of our lives together. Whenever we went anywhere, I always told him to wear his seatbelt and
"He didn't have his seatbelt on, I fell asleep at the wheel and lost control of the car I was driving.
He was thrown out of the vehicle. We rolled 7 times and he ended up on the other side of the motorway. It's my fault." I heard this story time and again over the next week as we tried relentlessly to save this young man.
People always ask why I became a nurse. I do it because someone has to take responsibility. Because someone has to care.